BoreNO

Giving Difficult Feedback (SBI Model)

Designed for First-time Managers & Team Leads to spark real collaboration and high-energy learning.

The audience is highly anxious about sounding bossy, micro-managing, or ruining existing friendships with their team members.

Icebreaker
Activity 1

Silent Scenario Prediction: Friend or Foe?

Kick off with a private prediction game: Managers see a tricky feedback scenario and silently guess if the team member will see them as bossy, helpful, or micro-managing. Reveal the real reaction later.

Tap to view the full activity.

Why this works

Creating a curiosity gap sparks interest and lowers anxiety since no one risks being wrong publicly. It builds anticipation for the real answer, opening minds to new perspectives.

Icebreaker
Activity 2

Myth Smash: Feedback Fears Unmasked

Expose common myths about giving feedback using real statements. Have everyone vote thumbs up or down (or digital poll) before revealing the truth.

Tap to view the full activity.

Why this works

Uncovering misconceptions helps participants confront hidden fears head-on, setting the stage for learning and correcting mistakes without embarrassment.

Icebreaker
Activity 3

Private SBI Draft: Low-Risk Entry

Everyone privately drafts an SBI (Situation-Behavior-Impact) feedback message on a realistic scenario. No sharing yet. Then, a pair comparison reveals different styles.

Tap to view the full activity.

Why this works

Starting with a private task gives anxious participants a safe first step, then comparing drafts in pairs builds confidence and exposes creative differences.

Icebreaker
Activity 4

Rapid Reaction: Bossy or Bold?

Create a fast-paced reaction round. Show several feedback examples—some bossy, some constructive—and let the room vote or react instantly which is which.

Tap to view the full activity.

Why this works

Instant voting keeps energy high, taps social momentum, and quickly surfaces hidden hesitation about what ‘bossy’ sounds like versus effective feedback.

Icebreaker
Activity 5

Tough Trade-off: Friendship or Feedback?

Present a dilemma: Your teammate, who’s also your friend, keeps missing deadlines. Give two realistic choices, and ask everyone to commit privately before a group debate.

Tap to view the full activity.

Why this works

Making a tough private choice, then discussing as a group, encourages honest reflection and lively debate on real-world trade-offs managers face.

Icebreaker
Activity 6

Impact Reflection: Your SBI ‘Ripple Effect’

Have participants actively map the possible ripple effects of giving—or not giving—difficult feedback using the SBI model. Connect it to real stake: project success, team trust, career growth.

Tap to view the full activity.

Why this works

Linking the learning to personal and professional outcomes makes the skill meaningful and helps participants internalize why feedback matters, not just how to do it.

Sign up to unlock 3 more activities

Get the full pack, facilitation flow, and more ready-to-run ideas.

Sign up with email